“Thinking clearly and acting wisely, maketh a man”. I guess everyone would agree with what i have said. Human beings are seen as the only organism that think, act and adapt to their situations.
Just like me, many of you might have come across few instances in which we find it hard to choose over the choices infront of us. I have been in that dilemma quite a few times. We do come across many crossroads in our life, dont we? And its a common saying that, “most often, the easy path may not be the right path”. And that the easy path often gives you success intially, but in the long run, it takes you in the wrong direction. Knowing all these, yet the initial instinct of our mind would be to choose the easy path when we are provided with an option. Why is it so? We see ourselves as supreme organisms who act judiciously while keeping a tab on our past mistakes. If so, whats tempting us from deep inside to choose the wrong path?
A famous mathematician once said,” The most likely solution to a problem will be the easiest solution”.
Its quite intriguing, right? As i have mentioned in my previous blogs,the concept, A coin has two sides, holds here too. The push and pull factors in us are the two aspects that determine our progress. Its the pulling factors lurking deep inside us that tempts us to choose the most easy path in life. These factors may be laziness, fear of failure, ego, or whatever that is holding us back.
Of all the above, its the fear of failure and laziness that plays the prime role. “Oh, what would happen if i fail?”, this is one of the most common questions that pops up in our head right before the moment we start some tedious task. Most often we fall prey to this question and resort our actions thus ending up in choosing the wrong choice. But there are a few who turns down such thoughts and take the right course.
So, how can we control such thoughts? How can we curb our tendency to choose the easy (wrong) path? You might be wondering seeing me carefully use the word “control” instead of “eliminate” here. You might be asking, ” Shouldnt such pull factors be eliminated?”. Well, i will come to that point in due time. Bear with me.
Imagine you are caught up in a jungle and its pitch dark. You hear the growl of a tiger. What would be your reaction? Will u go ahead and fight the tiger with no weapons when all the odds are against you? Well, thats the valiance shown by a coward. Or will you find a safe place to hide in first, gather things needed for your survival and fight (if necessary) with weapons when all the odds are in favour? Thats what wise men do.
So, which action would you resort to?
In this case, its the fear of failure and the urge to survive that is favouring us. Fear of failure can be a boon at times.
What i personally feel is that all the pull factors within us should not be eliminated, but controlled. We should find the right balance in life. Push and pull factors within us should be carefully maintained between certain thresholds. It should neither be too high nor be too low. Push factors can be kindness, hardworking mentality etc. These factors can also be termed as Positive attributes. Even too much of the positive attributes should be controlled. Too much kindness can be a curse in the present world. The world has grown so wicked that people with extreme kindness can be easily preyed upon. Also, some of the push factors has the tendency to develop arrogance within us. The more successfull we become, there is a chance that we may begin to over estimate our abilities. That can be dangerous. It may yield negative results.
Thus by maintaining the right balance in life, we will be well aware of our potentials and strength and we will have very little confusion in choosing between the paths laying wide open infront of us thus helping us to think clear and act wise.